His birth story was nothing like I had imagined or planned. [Disclaimer: I plan to share it ALL. The good, the bad, the unforgettable. You’ve been warned.] And I think I’ve put off writing it out because perhaps it has been haunting me in a way. I mean, when you drive past the hospital you labored and delivered at and you start to get emotional 4 days postpartum, something may be up. And I don’t mean the happy emotional. . .Read More
Helloooooo 9 month of pregnancy (and swollen feet)!! We’re in the home stretch.
Odds are that you may be reading this while we’re in labor! We’re scheduled for an appointment with our doctor at 38 weeks, 6 days to see how I’m progressing. For the last two weeks I’ve been dilated 1 CM and we’ve agreed with our doctor to induce if I have not progressed any. So chances are….. we’re inducing TONIGHT! (6/20/19)Read More
I am officially in my 8th month of pregnancy and I can’t believe it!! Sometimes just the fact that I’m pregnant and that we’re going to be parents baffles me. But Praise God for His goodness and answered prayers! As promised, a cleft lip and cleft palate Q & A can be found at the end of this post. I am answering your questions regarding baby’s diagnosis.Read More
At 19 weeks pregnant, Calvin and I headed to my doctor’s office for the anatomy scan. This is where we are able to see the baby through an ultrasound and where we’d normally find out the gender of our baby. However, just minutes after our ultrasound, our doctor had other news for us… she told us the ultrasound tech suspected a cleft lip on the right side of baby’s face.Read More
Here we are again! Four more weeks have passed and it’s time for the next bumpdate. I’m officially at the 28 week mark, also known as, THE THIRD TRIMESTER! Wowza, time just flies. In this post I’m also sharing YOUR tips and advice for mamas entering their third trimester! I can’t believe we are just 2 months from meeting baby Williams.Read More
A lot has happened since the halfway mark (20 weeks). Calvin felt the baby kick for the first time! We took maternity photos and I’m including a sneak peek of them in this post! :) We also got a start on our registries and I was able to attend The Mother of All Baby Showers event in Houston with my sweet mama. Now, time for the rest of this bumpdate:Read More
My halfway point #bumpdate is finally here! I can’t believe I’m halfway done with this pregnancy. Sometimes I still can’t believe I’m pregnant to begin with. I’m excited to answer questions I’ve been getting about the pregnancy, baby, Calvin and I and our journey into parenthood, as well as, share products and resources that have been game changers. Here we go!Read More
November 28, 2016 my husband and I began trying to conceive. October 26, 2018 I took a pregnancy test at home, alone, and it was positive!! That day was a Friday. I held it inside for ONE WHOLE DAY. How? I have no clue. But I do know I wanted the moment I told Calvin to be special…Read More
That’s right! In case you didn’t know because you aren’t on social media or I haven’t seen you in person lately: WE’RE PREGNANT!! I have a lot to say about this so I hope you’re ready for some good reads that will be broken into multiple blog posts! ;) But before I start. . .
To anyone on the journey to parenthood I want to say: I see you.
I DON’T HAVE THIS DOWN.
Hear me out. I still struggle to understand every single day that my identity is God given, not self or others given. Let me explain:
I am a wife,
a co-church planter,
a dog owner,
a mentor to women,
a worship leader,
a daughter to wonderful parents,
a teacher of God’s Word,
a college graduate,
and the list goes on…
But these are all titles that either I’ve given myself or have been given by others.
However only my Creator can give me my identity. Not a title. Because I’ve come to find that a title can be given or taken away, gained or lost. But a God given identity never changes and is eternally fulfilling.
If we aren’t careful, we could spend our whole lives searching everywhere for the next fulfilling title, trying to satisfy our desire to be identified with something or by someone else.
1: God tells you who you are - not anyone/anything else
God spoke over and affirmed the people in the Bible as to who He had called them to be. The fact that they were His and He called them out-weighted their other titles: “jew, gentile, slave, free, man, woman, greek, Hebrew”. [Gal. 3:28-29]
Even James, Paul, Peter and other New Testament writers open their letters to churches with a description of themselves, identifying themselves as servants of the Lord Jesus Christ and nothing else. Paul never opened a letter proclaiming “most studious religious leader”. James didn’t say “listen to me, I’m a brother of Jesus”,
No family name, no status, no education, no tradition, no income level defines you, God does. We have been made in his image. Not in the image of this world.
Remember, identity doesn’t come from what others may say or fail to say about you, our identity comes from God!
2: We know exactly what God says about us if we know Him & His Word
God has given us His word to know and understand Him more. He’s also given us His word to show us who we are in Him as believers.
Get to know the one who made you and you’ll get to know exactly who He has made you to be! Dig into scripture and pray He continues to reveal this to you.
A PDF of Bible verses is down below, be sure you grab a copy to have as a reminder of who you are in God! Read it constantly. Know your true identity
Here’s the deal: Without a proper understanding of who God is, you will ALWAYS try to find your identity in other things. The greater we know and understand God, the more we can know who we are in Him. Creation was meant to deeply know, love, and serve it’s Creator. And our Creator has already spoken our identity over us, Jesus died for it and it’s ours and we must know it and take hold of it daily.
3: You have an identity now that no one or nothing can take away.
I have struggled for TOO long with jobs or career opportunities to be what defines me. It’s been drilled in my head, you are what you do. Society pressures us to hustle for those prestigious titles or lifestyles. BUT THAT IS NOT WHAT DEFINES ME. (I’m yelling for my own sake, not at you. Promise.) I share that because anytime I’ve had to transition out of a job or started a new endeavor, I quickly begin identifying myself with it and when it’s over, when it’s gone, when it’s take away, I slump right back into an identity crisis.
When we lose any false identity WE place on ourselves, our disappointment makes us sick and the distraught can leave some paralyzed, turning to other things to cope with the pain, instead of our Creator who has already spoken it over us.
In Romans 8 Paul states that he is convinced that nothing can separate us from the love of God. We are forever loved by Him, identified by Him and forever His.
I don’t know about you, but for me, when I’m doubting my identity I begin to listen to the enemies lies and get so tangled in his schemes. I begin to be persuaded that maybe I did mess up to much, perhaps I finally did “blow it”.
I have to fight through all of that and be reminded of who I am in Christ.
Every day we have an enemy trying to convince us that we aren’t who God says we are and that God is not good. And yes, the evil one indeed has been defeated, but as my dear friend put it.…
Back in 2014, when my husband and I were first called to church planting, I freaked. I was already losing it about being identified by others as a pastor’s wife. I vented to my husband, pleading:
“but I don’t know how to be a pastor’s wife… I’m only 24 years old.. I can barely adult correctly.”
To which my husband, with zero hesitation and ease said:
“Crystal, just be who God has already called you to be: a disciple of His and a good and faithful servant
and you will automatically be a good pastor’s wife.”
That statement continues to pull me out of my deepest struggles of false identities, overwhelming expectations of others, people pleasing, fear of man, you name it! It’s true of you, too, friend!
You are a child of the most high! A disciple of Jesus. A good and faithful servant of God.
And a good and faithful servant of God is a good and faithful spouse.
A good and faithful servant of God is a good and faithful mom.
A good and faithful servant of God is a good and faithful wife.
A good and faithful servant of God is a good and faithful employee.
A good and faithful servant of God is a good and faithful neighbor, friend, sister, etc.
You get the point.
What are some of the “false” identities that people around you cling to?
What are other ways to be grounded in your identity when doubt creeps in?
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